October 10, 2008

Our Anniversary

Sunday, October 12th, is my 5 year anniversary. At times it seems we've been married longer than that and at other times, I wonder what in the heck was I thinking?!?!?!? My first marriage ended in a very dramatic divorce after being separated for 3 years from my husband of 23 years. Any of you girls out there who have experienced divorce after a long term marriage can relate to the depression and heartache that brings....especially when it comes out of the blue. Of course, upon reflection, there were red flags and signs but I chose to ignore them. But this post is not about that time in my life, but the life that my 2nd husband has given me.

I did not date for the 7 years I was single. After my divorce, and because I worked for a domestic relations attorney, I had no desire to enter the single scene. After all, I was 40-something and had not been on a date since I was 19 years old! How to act, what to say, and at the time I could not be myself, cause I didn't even know who I was. So I trudged along in my life, getting stronger and more secure about myself, until one day David came out of the blue. If you want to know "How I Met My Husband" you can read all about it here.


My husband works two jobs to provide for us. While we do not live a lavish lifestyle, neither do we go without. I have everything I need and more. There is nothing I have ever asked for that he has not given me. Of course, I have lots of "wants" vs. "needs" according to him! I'm sure it has not always been easy for him to understand why I "need" to repaint and redecorate on a fairly regular basis but he just goes along with whatever I want to do. He does have to put the brakes on me from time to time cause I might tend to get a little overboard (I can't believe I'm saying that!). The most precious gift he has given me, beyond his love and concern for me, is that he truly loves my grown children and their children. These are his grandkids as much as if they were his blood relation. He also sees about the comfort of my 88 year old mother. She loves him and as a matter of fact, she told my best friend that she "prayed him up" for me. Apparently, she was praying that I would meet someone in my life so that I wouldn't be alone.


It has not always been an easy five years. We were both single for a long time and both somewhat set in our ways and no one likes to change. We certainly don't see eye to eye on a lot of matters but at the end of the day, there is no one I'd rather spend the rest of my life with. I can't imagine life without him. I guess I'll keep him!!!!



A few weeks before we got married, we went to Fairhope, Alabama (a beautiful town near Mobile) for beach pictures with my children and their spouses. Here is our picture, taken at the end of a long day on the beach (guess that's why I have that goofy look!). Oh, did I mention, he's 12 years younger than me! I call him my "boy toy"!










Now ya'll know I can't have a post without a little decorating thrown in. I picked up my monogrammed euro shams today for our bedroom. Still a lot to do but I wanted you to see how pretty they turned out.





Have a safe and wonderful weekend!



31 comments:

Inspired Kara said...

happy anniversary!!!

N.M.B. said...

Congratulations on your milestone! I hope you have many, many more. And those shams are beautiful!

Suzann @ Lavender and Roses said...

Happy Anniversary!!

I LOVE how your shams turned out. The monogram is beautiful.
I can't wait to see more of your room.

Alyce said...

Happy Anniversary!

Deb said...

Have a wonderful weekend with your sweet hubby. Happy Anniversary!!!

Mabry's gamma said...

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! YOU AND YOUR 'BOY TOY' (ha ha) have a WONDERFUL weekend. Glad to hear you took a chance on love again.

My anniversary will be this Tuesday and we will be celebrating 30 years of marriage but 38 years of knowing him at the tender age of 14.

Cheri

Fran said...

Happy Anniversary!!!! Your shams are gorgeous! I love monogramed shams.

Fran

Kristi said...

Happy Anniversary - and the shams are so pretty!! I love the tone on tone...

Vee ~ A Haven for Vee said...

A very happy and blessed anniversary to you both!

I could identify with so much of what you had to say. Love the second time around is very sweet, that's all I can say...all the sweeter for being unexpected.

PAT said...

Congratulations, Judy!

I could copy your story, because it is very close to mine, almost word for word! I was married for 20 years. My first husband and I dated in high school. I suppose I should have seen the signs, but the divorce came out of the blue.

Just about two years after the divorce, a childhood friend of J's introduced us. A year later,we were married. My children and grandchildren have become his. He was so supportive, helping with the care of my late mother. After the first year, of our marriage, I've been at home. He's given me so much emotionally, physically, materially and continues to be my rock. We are celebrating our 25th anniversary, next month. "Love is Lovlier the Second Time Around." Remember that song?

Happy Anniversary.

Teresa said...

Oh,Happy Day- you two look perfect together- Love the shams- you have wonderful style- :}

Steph said...

Happy Anniversary!
What a cutie! That is a beautiful picture of the two of you!

KARIN said...

Happy Anniversary! I love your story and the fact that you are HAPPY!

(I have to say that I believe 100% that your mom prayed him up!)

salmagundi said...

Oh, the power of prayer. Mama knew what she was doing!!! Sally

9405018--Pat said...

Happy Anniversary! Your shams are lovely...Pat H

Janera said...

Judy, what a lovely story! I especially enjoyed reading this post because tomorrow (Oct. 12) is my anniversary, too. Electric Man and I have been married 24 years. Hard to believe it's been that long. And you know what? It hasn't always been easy, either. In fact, sometimes it's been so hard I've seriously wondered if we would make it to 25. With just one more year to go, maybe we will. ;-)

Happy Anniversary to you and your Love.

Rhoda @ Southern Hospitality said...

Happy anniversary, sweet friend! I'm 2 years behind you. I think ya'll have such a sweet story and I'm so glad you have each other. You make a very cute couple.

Love those monogrammed shams..that room is going to be gorgeous.

santamaker said...

I'm so happy for you to have met Mr. Right!! You make such a cute couple and he sounds like a keeper!
Goodness , but those monogrammed shams just look delicious!

tardevil said...

Does that make you a cougar??? Just kidding! To me, you look the same age. What a sweet story -especially about him loving your family and your mom not wanting you to be left alone. And I love the shams; they're yummo! Congrats! Oh, and stop by my place sometime & join my STIM-A-LA-TIN party!

Diane@A Picture is Worth.... said...

Happy Anniversary Judy! You two make a great looking couple!
diane

Heidi said...

Happy Anniversary!

Nancy said...

Hi Judy, Happy Anniversary. I love the monogramming on the pillows! nancy

joanie said...

Hi, Judy. Happy anniversary and many, many more.

Glad you have found happiness after the difficulties you faced in the past. I believe we are enriched by the experiences of our past because we learn from them, and they help us to appreciate the good things in life, like love, and family, and friends, and home (and, of course, wonderful decorating!)

Wishing you many more happy years ahead.

Joanie

Belle (from Life of a...) said...

Congratulations...I love your blog...so many beautiful photographs.

Sher's Creative Expressions said...

Happy, Happy Anniversary!!

Blessings,

Sher

Sincerely Yours said...

Hi Judy! Happy Anniversary! You make a beautiful couple! I truly believe in "meant to be"! Best wishes for continued happiness! Adore those pillows and can't wait to see finished room! I signed up for the Ballard catalog after seeing your headboard!lol Have a great week - Sincerely, Jeannette

JILL said...

Happy Anniversary! I loved reading your "how we met" story. I will also be celebrating 5 years on Dec 31 and it was my husband who was previously married (and he's older!!!). I hope the year ahead is blessed for the two of you!

The Decorated House said...

Happy Anniversary Judy! What a wonderful picture of you both. Love your new shams and your headboard!
Donna

Picket said...

Happy Anniversary girl!!! You two are beautiful! I love those shams...the momogram just makes them!!!! Hope you have a beautiful week!

Sincerely Yours said...

HI again Judy! Just a quick note to tell you no need to explain!!!! I enjoy visiting whether you have time to respond or not!lol We all experience those "slumps" and "moods". Bloggin and respondin is a time consumer (even if its fun!)lol Have a great week - Jeannette

Brenda said...

Congrats on your five year Anniversary.We are on our 25th. Time goes by fast.

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